This classic line from Alice in Wonderland (one of my favorite movies by the way) has always stayed with me. The scene is iconic: Alice lost, blonde and uncertain, asks the Cheshire Cat which way to go, and he calmly replies that it depends on where she wants to end up.

But what happens when we don’t know where we want to go? Do we really need to have a defined destination to find what’s the right path?

The older I get, the more I realize that unpredictability is the only real constant. Planning is good (and trust me, I am a big planner), but too much rigidity can blind us to the detours that lead to unexpected places. After all, who can guarantee that the goal you have today will still make you happy tomorrow?

I’ve always been the kind of person who likes to plan every step in advance. But lately, life has been gently inviting me to loosen my grip — to open myself a bit more to the surprises. And I’m not talking about sitting back and waiting for a happy ending. I am talking about walking with intention: showing up with integrity, building good habits, and trying to be the best version of yourself. Because if you do that — if you cultivate consistency, generosity, and kindness — the outcome might just be better than anything you could’ve planned.

My conclusion, if any, is that the trick is to control what you can: how you treat people, how you face challenges, your daily effort and discipline. And then, to embrace what you can’t control — trusting that even what escapes your plans might be leading you somewhere good.

 Things may not go as planned, but if you are doing your best, life will give you the best it has to offer (which you don’t even know yet).

With love,
M.